Be a *Version* of Kind
Woof. I don’t know about you guys, but humanity has surprised me in more than one way over the last few years.
Let’s be real. We have been through a lot. As a whole.
Then individually, we are also battling every single day with a variety of other things that are happening in our lives.
So, hear me out when I say it would be helpful to be a version of kind.
According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, kindness and human connection are literally needed in order to achieve self-actualization.
This is what children are learning at a very young age. And this is what children are seeing based on adults modeling behavior.
There could be a variety of barriers that may have gotten in the way of you achieving your “self-actualization.” Hell, you still may not be there. And that is okay.
However, being flat out rude to the people around you is not going to help achieve that.
Having negative intentions when engaging with people will not help either.
Look around. Many people, who do not have their basic needs (due to barriers outside of their control), can exercise a version of kind.
Ok. I get it. People really suck these days.
The internet is evil.
Hate is everywhere.
But I don’t have to follow suit.
Because, frankly, it does not feel good.
Being in a bad mood literally does not feel good. Matching people’s negative energy (because that is what I am surrounded by, or because that is what I think they deserve back) does not feel good. If you disagree, then I challenge you to process that in therapy.
I can guarantee you that you do not actually feel confident, respected, and have positive self-esteem/love if you are a jerk.
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So, bottom line: A version of kindness…why not?
Honestly and truthfully…why not?
Cannot be kind? Then just be. Negativity does not need to be part of the equation.
I always tell my clients: at the end of the day, if a zombie apocalypse happens, the world ends, and you are only left with yourself…I hope you like that person and are proud of them.
Reach out, let’s process.
