The Complexities of Living

Who ever said being human is straightforward and easy?

Well, probably no one. However, everyone can sure act like it sometimes.

I was recently speaking to a close friend.

I asked her, “Our moms did not seem to communicate as much overstimulation as we do in society today. Do you think we contribute to how overstimulated we are?”

(aka: are we part of our own problem sometimes?)

She replied, “Uh, yeah. We are never present.”

Welp.

Social media helps us validate a lot about how we feel. Sometimes, I fear that it prevents us from taking accountability though.

While the duality needs to have space, it is still important to point out both sides.

I understand that life has not taught me much different than how fast-paced I think I need to be, and it is also my responsibility to be aware and make change.

What is preventing you from reflecting on possible change? Recognizing your contribution to your own overwhelm?

You may feel like you need to keep up.
You may feel like there is no other choice.
You may feel like if you do not keep up, you will be left behind.
You may feel like staying busy keeps you sane.
You may feel like this is how you have always been (and maybe it has been fine).

All of those are worthy of exploring in therapy. Because I guarantee they are super problematic thinking styles.

If you are actually unhappy with how fast-paced your life is…how minimally you are present, how challenging it feels to be overstimulated all of the time, how overwhelmed you feel, how you are living back-to-back with tasks and your list is constantly overflowing…doesn’t that mean it is worth changing?

Just because this is why life is, does not mean you have to follow along. Trust me.

Have you ever sat down and wondered why so many of us feel that we are developing inattentive and impulsive disordered behaviors?

A solid portion of the population has a chemical imbalance, often genetic. For others…is it learned?

The hard part is…brains love avoidance. Brains love to be occupied. We have some of the most intelligent generations growing up right now! We also have some of the busiest generations growing up…and raising the ones who are growing up.

We can think of a million reasons/barriers/walls to keep us from change.

Why?

Change is uncomfortable.
Change is new.
Change is hard.
Change is complex.
Consistency with change requires extra effort.

But hey, life is not that serious.

Yes, it is complex, but are we making it more complex?

What if we simplified. What if we felt silence. What if we fought against our norm, the norm that feels unsettling and unwell.

What could happen?

Reach out. Let’s explore.