Finding Comfort in Transitions

Recently, my family went through a new transitional period.

Typically, the way I handle transitions is to get pretty neurotic and organized. No one is really shocked by that.

So true to form, I planned, prepared, and problem solved all of the ways that I could.

This time felt a little different though. After a few speed bumps, I embraced “I do not know. That is a future problem.”

And some people close to me were truly shocked at that response.

I have had to learn over time, that shit just happens.

Nothing can really prepare you for the journey to come. It is in the future. And you cannot grab that.

You can do the best you can, and at the same time, you need to embrace the fact that you truly have no idea.

Listen, I get it.

Transitions suck.

They make you tired.

You feel out of whack.

Your routine is off.

You are yearning for familiarity and comfort.

You want to fight the transition off, or you want to rush through it and get it over with.

Your emotions feel jumbled and likely, all over the place.

All of that is totally valid.

Here’s the other thing I have been reflecting on, though.

By wishing away the transition or speeding it along to “get it over with,” you are also wishing time away. And lord knows, 2026 Sara feels time slipping away way too fast.

I hate being uncomfortable too, I also hate feeling like my life is moving along too quickly.

Instead of numbing out during the transition, what if you leaned into it?

What if we tried to make the most of the moment?

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When I feel out of my head, I pause and stare at something I love, really intently.

So, to my children: I am sorry if you notice me staring at you with a cheesy smile while you are telling me about your dreams. I am remembering the importance in life and am fascinated about the human you are becoming as you speak words to me. I am examining how the heck you went from wordless to full of stories. I am looking at your beautiful features and how your eyes squint when you try to recall something else you were saving to tell me about from your day.

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Honestly folks, I have spent so much time in my head worrying about the future, what happens after you die, and if I will live long enough to see my kids grow into full grown adults. I do not have time anymore to stress about what is going to happen in the next two weeks.

I am not perfect on this topic, yet I am trying.

I am reminding myself.

I am taking present moments.

I am self-talking and reflecting.

And that is really all your therapist can ask for…to start.

Therapy sounds overwhelming, I get it. And all I am asking of you is to lean into life and observe a little more.

You may find that transitions are actually the process of something becoming beautiful. And by pausing a little more, you may feel like you are gaining back a sense of control over this time period.

Reach out, I support you in your journey, whatever that is.